In today's culture, it is difficult to become the woman you dreamed of becoming in the days of your innocence. Turn the TV on for one moment and you'll see this clearly. Seemingly far gone is a woman who respects herself, has a healthy self-image and who knows when to say no. I'm sure that you know this full and well.
In Rosalie de Rosset's book, "Unseduced and Unshaken: The Place of Dignity in a Young Woman's Choices", she addresses this issue among many topics that affect women.
"To be a Christian woman of dignity, a woman must know who she is before God; she must have dealt thoughtfully with her personhood and made decisions about who she will be." pg 24